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Saturday, September 24, 2005

haha, i just read a book taking time off from my studies. I think it's interesting.

Paul Meier, a Christian psychiatrist, suggests that "a person should date as many members of the opposite sex as possible in order to evaluate what type of mate would suit him best."
Haha, I shall not twist it to my advantage and be so playful. Same for you too brother (you know who I'm refering to) haha..

First, infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just out of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved.

Second, a person "falls into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Infatuation is something that can strike instantly. It is based totally on physical attraction. It is very easy to become infatuated. But infatuation is not bad. As a matter of fact, it is very pleasurable. You can't prevent yourseelf from being infatuated at times, since infatuation is mostly biological. But you need to be able to recognize it for what it is when it strikes.

Third, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying itself and the "feeliing" than it is in the other person. Infatuation is "in love with love" rather than in love with another person. Real love, though, is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person. This does not mean that you are totally interested only in the other's welfare and think nothing of yourself. This is impossible. (I'm reminded of somebody here yet again) But it does mean that you are deeply concerned about this person, even to the point of sacrificing your interests in favor of his or hers.

Fourth, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.It is the crucial test of a relationship. Either the commitment will grow stronger or the desire to date other people will grow stronger. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love. One had to fight depression and loneliness all the time during separation but the pain confirmed the fact that one is truely in love.

Hmm, interesting is not it. I edited and shortened some parts though. It's for the benefit of those friends of mine who is finding meanings in love. If you want to borrow the book just drop me a note. But I'll have to finish reading it first. Hmm.. looks like the list of those who wants to borrow this book will be really long :P haha

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